I was listening to Abraham Hicks last evening, and I come to understand how our self worth fits into the grand scheme of things when it comes to finding happiness in life. According to Merriam-Webster self-worth is defined by the opinion we have of ourselves and the value we place on ourselves. Somehow, what we believe about ourselves determines if we believe we deserve good things in our life.
According to psychology, we need to have a healthy balance to live a life worth living. What is a healthy balance? Let’s begin understanding self-compassion. When you experience hardship and even pain, do you give yourself time to recognize you are going through a difficult time? Do you tune into your emotions to see where you are in that state? Sometimes, we convince ourselves we are tough and we can handle whatever life throws at us, but we must ask ourselves do we take the time to recognize how we feel about what is going on in our life?
Think about a situation you may recently went through in your day to day life. It can be a confrontation with a coworker, a loved one, or maybe a stressful event such as a breakup or even an argument. Did you recognize yourself in that situation and determine the emotions you were experiencing? Self-compassion plays a role in our level of self-worth, and when we take the time to notice our feelings and recognize whether we are in pain be that emotional or physical, we are practicing self-compassion.
One thing we need to do to practice self-compassion is to recognize our emotional needs. For example, a busy day at work we might come home and relax with a hot cup of tea and put our feet up. We are comforting our physical stress when we take time to relax, such as a break at work. But, what about those moments we become upset and experience emotional stress? What is someway you can meet your emotional needs when you experience something upsetting or stressful? Maybe you could listen to mellow music to calm yourself, or watch a funny movie. While we can take a physical action to meet our emotional needs through calming ourselves, we are practicing self-compassion when we take the time to recognize our emotions which further validates our feelings.
We must not stop there. Once we validate our feelings and comfort our physical state, we also need to ask ourselves what we can do to alleviate our having to experience the situation again. Our self-worth is tangent on whether we practice understanding along the lines that we are not the only one suffering in the world. What do other people do to solve issues around our experience that does not violate others? For example, a coworker may upset us through vicious tactics. How we handle the situation determines if we can further heal from the situation and move on. So, we need to decide if there is a reasonable path to solve our situation so that we do not have to go through the same situation again.
Self-compassion and self-care are two components of building our self-worth. Remember, the more we learn to value ourselves, the better life we can live. When we feel that we will never achieve the goals we have for ourselves, we must check-in with our self-worth, because we are here to enjoy life, shoot off rockets of desire and line up with our rockets we create.
Until next time, live the life you deserve to live.